Just because you fall in lower case -l-ove with another does not mean you have to ‘be with them’. But it does mean you are going to have to learn how to capital -L-ove them.
Real Love is giving space to someone to be as they are without needing anything back from them in return.
Real love is being 100% for another’s happiness and joy even if their joy and happiness doesn’t include ‘being with you‘.
Real -L-ove is a totally non human attribute and is purely spiritual and comes from the Divine.
Lower case -l-ove is a chemical-magnetic attraction and attachment that happens when you meet a twin flame.
It is a powerful enough physiological experience that can cause us to extend great effort to think more about another than of ourselves and that’s why it is part of the human experience. The human species would not have survived without this function. For most humans this attraction-attachment is the only way that they will ever consider another over themselves but yet still it is not real -L-ove.
But once an attraction-attachment happens to you, you are going to have to learn how to ‘Love the one you love‘. This is especially the case in situations that prevent the two of you from ‘being together’ or when the attraction-attachment is not reciprocal and heart-break happens.
One of the most powerful songs ever written that embodies being in this space of real love towards another and not wanting or needing them to be anything other than what they are as they are is Dolly Parton’s “I will always love you” sung by Whitney Houston.
The song is a perfect illustration of what’s required in really Loving someone by giving them the space to be and seeing the reality of a situation for what it is and not what you think it should be.